Holding onto a Treadmill Can Cause Four Injuries
You may think holding onto a treadmill is safer than letting go, but it can set you up for several kinds of injuries.
It’s not safe to hold onto a treadmill because this can put you at risk for one or more of several types of injuries.
What kind of injuries or insults can holding onto a treadmill cause?
Here they are (no particular order):
Bad Posture (zero incline)
This is a no-brainer once you view the profile of someone holding onto a treadmill. A person’s height often dictates how their posture degrades.
Very tall people, while holding on, present with a forward head (think of a crow) and rounded shoulders.
They are slouched over so that their hands comfortably reach the rails or bar in front.
Over time, this forward posture can “mold” and becomes somewhat retained even after they get off the treadmill.
Short walkers will do the “shoulder bob” if they’re holding onto the side rails.
Sometimes this poking up and down of the shoulders is so pronounced, they can practically spin pizza dough on them!
With the shoulder bobbing comes tensed-up shoulder muscles.
All of this can lead to a repetitive stress injury: pain.
Hip Pain
A repetitive hip injury can result at fast speeds because the faster you walk when holding on (zero or inclined), the more the hips must abnormally rotate to compensate for the inertia of the upper body.
In normal walking, the upper body moves in rhythm with the lower body.
When you hold onto a treadmill, the upper body is frozen; it’s easy to see how this disturbs normal movement of the lower body and hips.
“It is possible that holding onto the treadmill while walking on it can lead to gait abnormalities that will cause hip pain,” says Bruce Pinker, DPM, who specializes in sports medicine and surgery of the foot and ankle.
“Especially while walking quickly (4-5 miles/hr.), can lead to gait disturbance if one is holding on,” continues Dr. Pinker.
“Our arm swing is an important part of walking, as it helps build momentum and provide balance.
Shoulder Pain (incline)
Leaning back with the machine’s angle, arms locked straight and tugging with each step, can cause a repetitive injury in the shoulder joints, though this is rare.
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Those with elbow tendonitis may find this type of walking uncomfortable on those tendons, because grip-walking aggravates the tendons (if already inflamed) that control hand grip.
When I was a personal trainer I had a new client who reported mysterious chronic shoulder pain that would come and go, but she couldn’t associate it with any particular activity.
I soon learned she’d hold onto the treadmill when walking; I told her to swing her arms. The shoulder pain never came back.
Heel Pain
Plantar fasciitis can result from holding onto a treadmill simply because holding on causes an abnormal gait. This transfers down to the feet.
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If you have any kind of mysterious pain in the shoulder, neck, feet, and even back or knee, consider the possibility that the cause is holding onto a treadmill.
“Changing of the gait can always lead to injuries, especially soft tissue injuries such as tendinitis,” says Dr. Oliver Zong, a podiatrist (foot specialist), and director of surgery at NYC Foot Care.
He further explains: “To the extent that holding on to the treadmill changes one’s gait, this could happen. Clearly it is better to walk or run naturally with a natural gait pattern.”
To prevent falling off a treadmill, use a speed that you can manage without feeling you’re going to get tossed off the belt. Holding onto a treadmill, indeed, can cause injuries.
Dr. Pinker is with Progressive Foot Care, which provides state-of-the-art, full diagnostic testing and treatment of the foot. He’s a professional foot and ankle health and wellness speaker who delivers many original seminars annually such as “Keep On Running.”
Dr. Zong, a foot and ankle surgeon, has appeared on national and local TV programs such as “Good Morning America” and “The Doctors.”
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
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Benefits of 30 Percent Treadmill Incline Include the Low Back
You can reap serious benefits with a 30 percent incline on the treadmill–but you’ll get ZERO benefits if you hold on!
You may have spotted those treadmills at your gym that go up to a 30 percent incline, and thought, “What’s the point? You have to hold on or you’ll fall off.”
I’m a former certified personal trainer, and you do not have to hold on, any more than you’d need to if you were walking up a flight of stairs or a dandy hill outside.
Walking a 30 percent incline on a treadmill will produce a training effect only if you don’t hold onto the bar in front or the console.
If you walk slowly enough, this will not be necessary. Problem is, people typically set the pace too fast for a 30 percent incline.
Benefits of 30 Percent Incline on a Treadmill
You need not spend a lot of time at this steepness to reap benefits. Benefits come in the activation of muscles that are only marginally tapped at lower inclines. At 30 percent, your Achilles tendon and calves will get a superior workout.
Another benefit goes to the anterior tibialis muscle, at the front of your lower leg. Another benefit of 30 percent incline work is that of ankle strengthening.
Plus, at this steepness, there is very pronounced hip and knee flexion. This means that the hip flexors (there are several of these) and the knee flexors (hamstrings) will get fruitfully engaged.
The benefits of a 30 percent incline don’t stop there.
Your low back will have to work to keep your body vertical. However, it’s natural to lean forward as fatigue sets in, as you would if hiking a steep trail.
Remember, to reap benefits of a 30 percent incline, do NOT hold onto the treadmill, or you’ll totally defeat the purpose.
Your body must be vertical, though leaning forward to keep up with the tread is also acceptable, and in fact, will invariably happen as you become fatigued enough.
When you don’t hold on, you’ll feel all sorts of uncomfortable fatigue setting in, all over. But of course!
Walking 30 percent is very new to your body; you’re not used to it. Like any new form of exercise, your body will have to adapt, and in the process, it will “hurt.”
Remember how walking lunges felt the first time? Or barbell squats? Or pushups? Don’t cheat by holding onto the treadmill. Another benefit of 30 percent incline exercise is that it’s easy on the knees.
Though I just mentioned there’s pronounced knee flexion, this means more work for the hamstrings, but there is far less impact and shock absorption on and in the knee joint itself.
If you have painful heels from plantar fasciitis, a 30 percent incline will provide the much-needed stretching of your plantar fascia.
Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified through the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained women and men of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health.
Treadmill Workout for Burning Stomach Fat: 2 MPH, 15 Percent Incline
With correct use of a treadmill, you can burn high amounts of fat in your belly and thighs, hips, etc., with only a 2 mph setting on the 15 percent incline.
Look at people when they use the treadmill’s 15 percent incline; what do you see?
They all hold onto the machine while it goes at a fast speed, often 4 mph.
Even 3 mph is a pretty fast clip for a 15 percent incline. As long as they hold on, they will not burn the fat in their belly (many have noticeable excess fat in their abdominal area).
You will burn WAY more fat in your stomach if you keep your hands off the treadmill, swing the arms naturally and use only a 2 mph speed (at 15 percent incline).
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Yes, you read that right: 2 mph at the highest incline, without holding on, will burn serious calories.
The problem is that the vast majority of men and women who aim to shed fat in their midsection cling onto the treadmill, their feet simply gliding over the fast tread as their entire body tilts back, reproducing the same angle that occurs when walking on a flat surface!
Furthermore, holding on takes significant workload off the legs. You don’t want this to happen because larger muscles burn more fat when exercised than do small muscles.
To get rid of belly fat and excess weight elsewhere like the thighs and hips, you absolutely must make leg and butt muscles do all the work when using a treadmill incline.
“But I can’t keep up! I’ll fall off!”
You will not fall off if you go 2 mph. When I told my clients to walk only 2 mph (at 15 percent), they thought this was entirely too slow to cause fat loss.
However, they changed their minds within five minutes of this “slow” pace when done without holding on!
Ten minutes into it (not holding on), they were feeling far more worked than with 30 minutes of holding on at much faster speeds.
What if you’re ready to quit after only five minutes?
Should you then hold on? Or should you go only 1.5 mph?
If you prefer steady state exercise, slow down to under 2 mph. There is no shame in walking 1.5 mph at 15 percent incline when your arms are swinging instead of gripping the handrails or other portion of the treadmill.
When you let go, your posture is forced to be near perfect. Leaning forward, while NOT holding on, is perfectly fine.
This is what hikers often do. On the other hand, leaning forward, while holding on, is serious cheating. Don’t do it.
To expedite belly fat loss, defined abs and fitness improvement, you should employ interval training rather than steady state.
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So if you can do 2 mph at 15 percent (without holding on) for only five minutes, or even for only two minutes, then at that point, lower the incline to five percent or zero, and continue walking 2 mph at this lower angle for a few minutes to recover your energy.
Then raise the incline back to 15 percent. Switch back and forth. So for a few minutes, you’re huffing and puffing, and then for a few minutes, you’re recovering.
Alternate back and forth for 30 minutes, without holding onto the treadmill, and believe me, you will bust up far more belly fat than clinging to the machine at 4 mph for a whole hour!
Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified through the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained women and men of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health.
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Holding Onto a Treadmill: Balance Problem or Laziness?
Is it really about balance issues for all those people who hold onto a treadmill?
Is it possible that the hoards of men and women who hold onto a treadmill while walking do so because of some “balance issue”?
You need not be formally trained in exercise science to understand some fundamental facts.
I once read some posts to an article about common cardio mistakes. One of the mistakes mentioned was “leaning on the machine.”
Many readers posted that they were guilty of holding onto a treadmill.
Then someone posted that she has “balance issues” and that there should not be a one-size-fits-all approach to using cardio equipment, and that people should do what they believe is “best for their body.”
That’s the problem: Just what IS best for your body?
Do you have any idea? Many people don’t have a clue, which is why so many women and men can’t lose the weight they want or can’t make the progress they dream of as far as physique development or fitness.
If you think you know what’s best for your body, chances are you’re wrong.
The Balance Myth
I can’t begin to tell you how many people have told me the reason they hold onto a treadmill is because they have “bad balance,” “poor balance” or “balance problems.”
I ask them if they’ve been diagnosed with a balance disorder. Of course, they say “No.”
I’ve had only one client with a disorder that affects balance: Meniere’s disease, and I had her using the treadmill without holding on.
There was another man at the gym who had significant muscle development in his upper body, but had weak, unstable, scrawny legs; he’d sustained permanent neurological damage from a spinal cord injury suffered in a motorcycle accident.
He’d always hold onto the treadmill when he walked. Ironically, he had no problem loading 45 pound plates onto a barbell — at shoulder height.
I told him to remove his hands from the treadmill. He was reluctant, but he complied. As I expected, he didn’t fall or lose his balance. He simply continued walking.
So when people tell me they hold onto a treadmill because of “balance,” I believe they simply don’t know better.
I hesitate to brand them as lazy, because if they were lazy, they wouldn’t even be on a treadmill.
Though sometimes, laziness is obviously the reason, particularly in those who ramp the incline to 15 percent, grip the bar like a vice and lean way back, completely cancelling out the incline.
In most cases, I believe it’s not knowing basic walking mechanics. Does this mean they don’t have a problem with balance if they let go? No.
However, the problem with balance isn’t a medical problem; it’s a learned problem.
The analogy is never removing the training wheels from a bicycle.
Imagine riding a bike with training wheels as you grow up into adolescence.
One day you get on a bike without training wheels. What will happen?
Chances are very high you’ll fall. At the least, you’ll struggle and have “balance issues.” In fact, you’ll feel very balance-challenged.
That’s because you’ve trained your body to adapt to an external support: the training wheels. You’ve deprived your body of developing its internal balance mechanism.
This is what happens when you’ve been holding onto a treadmill for a long time.
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Taking your hands off makes some people feel like they’ll fall off. Of course! Their body is trained to be dependent, not independent!
But why did they hold onto the treadmill in the first place?
Believe it or not, “Everyone else was doing it” has been named as a reason.
Another reason is because the rails and bar are there, and a novice’s hands will naturally gravitate towards them; a bad habit is born.
And I hate to say this, but sometimes this habit is born because a personal trainer set the novice client up for dependence by putting them on a treadmill and then saying something like, “If you feel off balance, hold onto the bar to steady yourself.”
This puts into the client’s head an expectation of balance problems, an endorsement of cheating.
Before you write yourself off as hopelessly balance-challenged, revisit the idea of walking on a treadmill with a natural, arm-swinging gait.
Do you really believe you’ll fall off if you try this at 2 mph?
If you’re nervous, then set the speed at 1 mph, and then increase by one tenth of a mile per hour every minute and see what happens.
Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified through the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained women and men of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health.
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The Cardio Machine Setting that’s Best for Burning Fat
Confused over which cardio equipment program is best for burning the most fat?
Gee, one says fat burn, but another says cardio, then another says hills, or steady pace, or this and that.
Do they ALL burn fat? Or does one cardio program cause more weight loss than another cardio machine program?
To lose weight, burn fat and get the best weight loss results, it doesn’t matter which cardio machine program a man or woman chooses.
I’m a certified personal trainer. What matters is what kind of workout people apply to whatever cardio equipment program they have selected.
The kind of workout a person should apply is called high intensity interval training (HIIT). HIIT can be applied to the hill cardio program, the “cardio” program, the “fast” program, or any other program on the cardio machine.
Because no matter what the cardio program, men and women must do the following:
Spend 30 to 60 seconds putting YOUR ALL into whatever it is you’re doing, be it pedaling a bike, elliptical, revolving staircase, rowing machine or treadmill.
Do ten, 30 to 60 ULTIMATE EFFORT spikes, within your overall time with the cardio machine.
Between each burst spike is approximately a few minutes of recovery time. During this time, a person continues to move, but at a casual pace.
So if you’re running as fast as can be on a treadmill, recovery time would consist of either a very, very slow jog, or a slow to medium walk. Be sure to swing your arms at all times, however.
On an elliptical machine, the fat burning spike would consist of your fastest possible pedaling at a higher pedal tension that you would use for a casual pace.
What your fastest pedaling would be, and which tension you’d use, varies from one person to the next, depending on fitness level.
I’ve noted that some people wipe out after 30 seconds at level 7 and 170 RPMs.
Whereas, a much more fit person, who’d like to lose weight, would need 30 seconds of a level 10 and 250 RPMs to wipe out.
Every time I see people on a rowing machine, they are taking a row through the park. Add up to 10 high-tension, as-fast-as-you-can intervals within your overall time on a rowing machine.
This principle can be applied to all cardio machines, which is why no particular cardio “button” is the best for fat burning.
Actually, the best setting is the manual setting on the exercise machine. This means an individual must input setting changes every few minutes, then every 30 seconds, then every few minutes, every 30 seconds, and so on.
You’ll get used to this, and the hard-and-easy switching back and forth will actually make overall time go much faster.
HIIT burns more fat than traditional fixed-pace movement. This has been proven time and time again by science.
Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified through the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained women and men of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health.
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Are Big Thunder Thighs Genetic? Are Some Women Doomed?
Are you convinced that your big thunder thighs are genetic and nothing can be done about them?
Do you stare at your big thighs in disgust, but then think, “It’s genetic”?
Maybe you don’t have thunder thighs, but when you see them on women, you’re convinced that “It has to be genetic.”
“Thunder Thighs” Defined
If a woman weighs 300 pounds, of course she’ll have massive legs, but they’ll usually match pretty well with the rest of her body; her entire body is huge.
However, in the case of classic thunder thighs, the upper legs are too large for the rest of the woman’s body.
She may be carrying extra weight all throughout her body, but her thighs are still out of proportion, and they really stand out.
Another way that this problem manifests itself is when a woman’s upper body is of medium girth – she’s not chubby or stocky here, but her lower body, especially the thighs, and sometimes only this area (and the hip region) is big; chunky; hefty.
And it is not muscle.
A layperson can easily tell the difference between the fat of classic thunder thighs with their accompanying jiggly or fatty tissue in the hip region, and the impressive muscle size of an Olympic woman sprinter or speed skater.
The major difference is that in the sprinter (or speed skater), the entire body is hard, and often quite muscular.
A woman with “big” or “thunder” thighs usually does not have a trained-looking physique. Often, she’s quite soft looking or pear shaped.
So, are thunder or disproportionately large thighs in a woman genetic?
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Well, to some degree.
However, this doesn’t mean there isn’t a cure for out of proportion hefty thighs.
Many women are convinced that nothing can be done about this problem; many women resign to living with this unappealing feature, even though they hate this.
But here is a very compelling question: Have you ever, ever, ever seen a woman with tree trunk thighs/big hips, and a ripped, lean upper body?
And when I say ripped, I mean chiseled, sculpted, glistening with tight, sleek muscle (not bulk). Have you?
Now don’t confuse big muscular thighs with big chunky fatty ones here.
I’m talking about a woman with a size 6-10, ripped upper body (and the size 10 would correspond to a taller woman), but with fatty, hefty, porky thighs.
You won’t see such a woman. And why is that? Because the workout and nutritional regimen that create a totally buff, ripped upper body will valiantly fight against thunder thighs.
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I have seen many women with chunky thighs and a size 6-10 upper body — but — their upper body was nowhere near buff status, not even in the same ball park.
The workout regimen (and diet, of course), that gives rise to an amazingly sculpted upper body will, likewise, create astonishing effects for the lower body.
This assumes that a woman works her lower body in the same way that she does the upper body.
Genetics do play a role, in that women tend to carry more fat in the upper legs and hips than do men.
And in the absence of intense strength training, some women’s legs will just fill out with fat and cellulite.
I might add that I never see women with thunder thighs working their legs the same way as the women do who have lean, sleek, buff legs (not scrawny; not thin; but sculpted, shapely hard gams).
So if you suffer from thick thighs, what’s the takeaway message here? Don’t give up.
Change your workout routine; it’s not effective. Cut your cardio time in half and double your strength training time.
And employ the following weapons:
- High intensity interval training
- The back squat
- A most calorie-crushing exercise while keeping your feet still
Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified through the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained women and men of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health.
Why Ignoring Bullies Won’t Make Them Go Away
Find out why telling your child to ignore bullies is one of the worst things parents can do.
Have you told your bullied child to “just ignore it”? Ignoring bullies is no more effective than ignoring sexual harassment in the workplace.
Ask anyone who’s ever been sexually harassed on the job and has ignored it: It doesn’t go away; in fact, it gets worse.
“When a bully locks onto a victim, they are invested in demonstrating and continuing to demonstrate their power over the victim,” says Rona Novick, PhD, who developed the BRAVE bully prevention program.
A clinical psychologist, Dr. Novick has worked with schools nationally on the issue of bullying, and is director of the Fanya Gottesfeld Heller Doctoral Program at Yeshiva University, NY.
“Especially because bullying often has an audience of peers, demonstrating this power in front of peers is important.”
So true. When I was in junior high, a bully, “Paula,” delighted in making her victim, “Annie,” cry in the presence of several onlookers. I was one of those onlookers.
Why Ignoring a Bully Won’t Make It Stop
“So when a victim responds to a bully by ignoring, the bully is very likely to escalate his/her violence, trying to get the expected response,” says Dr. Novick.
This is exactly what Paula was doing with Annie, who initially was ignoring the bullying.
“Violence” doesn’t always mean physical; Paula never laid a hand on Annie and didn’t even threaten her physically, for that matter; it was all psychological.
“Even if the victim ignores once, twice, three times, eventually, the bully’s escalation will become intolerable and the victim will react, once again signaling to the bully that he can control the victim.” And Annie sure did react: by beginning to cry.
Interestingly, this made Paula retreat, but not without first facing the onlookers with a proud smirk and sneering, “She’s crying!” Paula sauntered away only after a lot of damage had already been done, job accomplished.
Bullies should not be ignored.
There’s the case of another student whose last name sounded kind of like “gargoyle.” Kids called this boy gargoyle and he did not think it was funny, and his attempts to ignore the frequent teasing failed to stop the harassment.
Another Reason Ignoring Bullies Fails
In the case of “the gargoyle,” this child tried his best to “just ignore it.” He’d keep his eyes on his books and keep his mouth zipped, but his body language was powerful.
Most victims are “selected” as targets because of their emotional reactivity, Dr. Novick says. This trait of reactivity, largely based on inborn temperament factors, is difficult to change.
“These are children who blush and cry easily, who wear their hearts on their sleeves,” Dr. Novick continues.
“No matter how much such a child tries to appear untouched by a bully’s harassment, the impact is often written on their face.”
Ignoring the Bully Can Escalate the Behavior
Often, a victim will attempt to ignore. The lack of response from a victim who has responded in the past does not result in the bully ceasing his efforts, Dr. Novick explains.
“Rather, a bully will try something new, something more extreme, to get an indication that they still have power over the victim”.
In a junior high school class, I witnessed a boy verbally bullying another boy; the victim kept ignoring it, back facing the perpetrator.
This was so inviting to the mean boy that he took an eraser, soaked it with glue and smeared it on the victim’s back, who continued to ignore the harassment.
Many adults, thinking it will be helpful, advise victims to “ignore it and it will go away.”
Dr. Novick cautions that this is a bad move for adults, who, in offering advice that will not work, lose their credibility and may no longer be seen by children as a reasonable resource for bullying problems or other life challenges.
What parents and educators need to offer victims is an array of strategies, including telling adults, or using distraction.
Dr. Novick is recognized for her expertise in behavior management and child behavior therapy. She has published scholarly articles on school applications of behavior management, children and trauma, and bully prevention in schools.
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
Preventing Social Exclusion at School: Teacher Tips
Here are guidelines for teachers who are serious about preventing social exclusion at their school.
Social exclusion can leave wounds that never heal, and teachers can be instrumental in minimizing its occurrence.
Social exclusion is when a child is excluded or ostracized for no good reason, or, if you need a reason, how about for not wearing cool clothes, for having an outstanding physical feature, for being too smart, too quiet or for not thinking “like everyone else”?
“Some social exclusion is inevitable, and children must learn ways to cope with disappointment and hurt feelings,” says Jamie M. Howard, PhD, clinical psychologist specializing in the evaluation and treatment of mood and anxiety disorders in children and adolescents.
Examples of Social Exclusion
• Having nobody to eat lunch with (the student has even tried to join groups at tables, but is told they’re not welcome, or, when they sit next to a few kids, the kids vacate)
• Nobody in the class wants the student in their group when the teacher tells the kids to get into groups to work on the new assignment
• Nobody wants to sit next to the student on the bus for a field trip.
Dr. Howard explains that “the school and classroom culture can do a lot to shape kids’ ideas about appropriate ways to treat one another.
“A culture of respect for individual differences and treating one another with kindness can reduce negative feelings, even if some social exclusion still exists.”
Teachers should rethink their insistence that kids get into groups if the same student is always left out, sitting alone.
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Schools can also arrange a place for such students to eat lunch where they don’t feel pressure to join someone or where eating alone isn’t so awkward, such as an offset location in the school’s library.
The most striking ways social exclusion can present itself is, indeed, when kids are asked to form groups, and during lunch time.
Teachers must ask themselves if there exists research showing that NOT having kids form groups stunts academic development.
Certainly, homeschooled kids are not exposed to the group setting, yet many homeschooled kids are several grades ahead of their traditionally schooled peers in math, science and English skills.
My niece is homeschooled — just she and the teacher, her mother — yet at the age of 7, was reading at tenth grade level (I witnessed this), and is quite well-adjusted and well-behaved in public and at home.
Though I’m not saying that one example speaks for all, it’s a fact that many homeschooled kids, who never work in groups, have excelled academically and socially.
A child/teen who’s subjected to ongoing social exclusion at a traditional school setting will not develop any admirable or advantageous psychological traits as a result.
That same child would logically turn out much more internally stable if homeschooled in a non-judgemental environment free of being rejected.
Social exclusion is a form of bullying.
Dr. Howard explains that there are three ways to help prevent bullying: 1) mindfulness, 2) understanding peers’ behaviors without necessarily agreeing, and 3) empathy; putting oneself in another’s shoes to understand their emotional experience.
“Group activities and projects are a good context in which to practice these skills,” says Dr. Howard. Teachers can form the groups rather than leaving this up to the students.
Nobody will lose sleep if they don’t get to be in a group with their best friends, but being rejected can be a source of substantial stress, and the anticipation of this could literally make a student sick to their stomach.
One way teachers can prevent social isolation or rejection is to assign groups based on having the students name out a number beginning with #1.
The teacher can then have all the ones, fours, sevens and tens form one group, and then all the twos, fives, eights, and elevens form the next, and so on.
There are many objective ways groups can be formed by teachers.
Dr. Howard heads the Child Mind Institute’s Anxiety and Mood Disorders Center trauma response group. She specializes in the evaluation and treatment of anxiety and mood disorders in children and adolescents.
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
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How to Handle Gym Bullies Who Are Women
Here’s how to face the problem of female bullies at the gym and how to manage them.
Is there even a such thing as gym bullies who are women?
This depends on how you define “bully.”
Much of gym bullying may occur in the locker room where there wouldn’t be many, if any, witnesses.
So how do you deal with a female gym bully?
I’m a big proponent of the concept of empowerment. That’s why I won’t recommend that the targeted individual ignore the “bully.”
I’m going to offer a perspective based on common sense and having lived long enough to observe a phenomenon among humans:
- Ignoring bully behavior will NOT make it go away.
- Ignoring bully behavior will NOT empower you.
In all seriousness, if you become aware that a woman is making snide comments about you deliberately loud enough for you to hear, march right over to her and speak honestly about what’s on your mind about the situation.
Don’t tell her she’s hurting your feelings, because this is exactly what her goal is.
Instead, put her on the spot. She does not expect you to step right up to her.
This may seem impossible to do, but this kind of reaction from the victim of the “bully” has a very high success rate at stopping the negative behavior.
There’s nothing to fear. She can’t get your membership revoked, and you’re probably more likely to get struck by a meteor on the way to your car in the parking lot than by her fist.
Just go up to her and tell it like it is, even if there’s other people with her. Put the bully on the spot and watch her crumble.
She is not prepared to respond intelligently, and she knows this.
There’s a second strategy for dealing with the woman gym bully. And that’s to get strong. Focus on making your body stronger and stronger.
Strong!
There’s something about knowing you can bench press or deadlift 135 pounds that makes you invulnerable to hurt feelings from a bully. This air of confidence about you, in turn, will make the bully retreat.
The bully likes to see hurt in your face. You can’t pretend not to show hurt if you feel hurt. You’ll be showing it alright if you’re feeling it.
But if you’re strong, it’s not likely you’ll get hurt feelings from a mean woman, even if she’s a size 6 and you’re a 16.
And by the way, getting strong does NOT mean getting big. You won’t bulk up without intending to.
Perception
Finally, consider the possibility that you’re actually not being bullied at all, that it only seems that way.
For example, two women may be looking your way, smiling and snickering, speaking softly.
This doesn’t mean they’re making fun of you. They may be talking about something unrelated and just waiting to use the equipment you’re on.
If a woman grabs the equipment you’re using, maybe she truly didn’t know you were using it.
This happens all the time. Someone leaves their equipment for just a moment to get water, then returns and sees someone using it.
Another example of “pseudo-bullying” is when a gym member points out behavior on your part that’s inappropriate.
They’re not trying to bully you, but may find your infraction to be quite annoying.
Examples are:
- leaving your sweat on equipment
- leaving litter behind on the treadmill
- coming into the gym drenched in fragrance and hijacking the air
- hogging the entire bench in the locker room with your personal belongings
- not flushing the toilet
- leaving water puddles all over a bench.
If someone points these things out to you, they’re not trying to be a bully.
Etiquette should be practiced inside a gym, and some members are quite vocal about correcting someone’s lack of etiquette.
If you encounter more of a real bully at the gym, which would most likely be a woman pressuring you to finish up on a piece of equipment, inform her that you’re going to finish your sets, but she’s welcome to work in with you. Do not give up the equipment to her!
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
How Tall Teen Girls Can Stop Insults About Height, Bullying
Tall teens girls who get “bullied” or insulted about their height can say two simple words that will stop the taunting dead in its tracks.
I was inspired to write this article after reading about a teen girl’s plight with her extra tall height, and the ridicule she received from “friends.” This 15-year-old girl, 5-10, wrote in to Yahoo! Answers and states:
My friends tell me I’ll never find a boyfriend. She also says, Boys around me constantly say how tall girls are ugly. Most disturbing, this teenager writes: I generally want to kill my self (sic) because that’s all I think about.
Oh, and she also says: All I get are negative comments.
Certainly, she isn’t the only very tall teen girl who gets continuous taunting.
The girl above, as well as other tall teen girls in similar bully boats, need to come up with a tactic that will stop these insults dead in their tracks, a way to DISARM the bullies.
How can a very tall teen girl stop her bullies?
With these two words: “PROVE IT.” Before I elaborate, I want to first point out that this trick will work for only some types of ridiculing, but it will make a huge difference nevertheless.
The type of insult that this will work on are the overly-generalized statements (insults), such as:
“You’ll never get a boyfriend.”
“No man will ever want to marry you.”
“You’ll never get dates.”
“Tall girls are ugly.”
“Boys aren’t attracted to tall girls.”
Look the bully dead-smack in the eyes and say with a stern voice (like a teacher giving an order to a naughty student), “PROVE IT.”
Say nothing more. Keep looking dead into the bully’s eyes — even if the “bully” is your so-called friend.
Stand your ground as you wait for the perplexed bully to come up with an answer that will make him or her sound smart.
Here’s What’ll Happen
• They will be tongue-tied.
• They won’t HAVE an answer.
• You caught them off-guard.
They will NOT be able to cite any population studies, demographic data or reference any other kind of data that proves their statement.
They will not be able to cite any name of a research journal that verifies their statement.
They will be left in a quandary, while you continue waiting for them to give an intelligent answer.
If the bully simply repeats the statement (and he or she just might do that, in an attempt to get one up on you), then come back with: “PROVE IT.” Then wait. You are the cat, and they are the mouse.
Have fun with this!
The bully will soon begin buckling and will either go away or change the subject to something neutral.
This is basic psychology. You just presented a very unprepared person with a challenge that he or she is totally unequipped to take on.
If the bully insults you the next day or a week later with a similar comment, do it again: “PROVE IT.”
If they sneer, “I don’t need proof! Everyone knows that tall girls don’t get boyfriends!” then calmly but sternly repeat: “PROVE IT.”
Because you see, if they sneer back at you, they didn’t get ahead of you; they simply went around in a circle and put themselves in the same position of vulnerability.
They may huff and puff and snort and scowl, but they will know they’ve been had!
The tall teen girl can stop these kinds of insults because the bully doesn’t want to keep being put in a position of proving an incredibly unfounded statement.
But you must speak with the sternness of a strict school teacher. You must see the bully as a mouse and you as the cat.
