Dominant Hand’s Grip Is Weaker than Non-Dominant Hand’s
Are you worried because your dominant hand’s grip is weaker than that of your non-dominant hand?
So suppose you’re right-handed, but your left grip is actually stronger. Don’t jump to the conclusion that this means you have some neurological disease.
Yes, it seems that the grip of your dominant hand (if you’re right-handed) should be stronger than that of your left hand, and vice versa for left-handed individuals.
I’m a fitness expert but also a very observant person. I’m right-handed, and I couldn’t quite understand why it was that my left hand seemed to have a stronger grip with a grip-strengthening gadget when compared to my right hand.
My right hand should have been the stronger one. The gadget has five hooks: one for the thumb and four above it for the fingers.
The hooks are attached to springs, and you fit your fingers in all five hooks and try to pull your fingers towards a center point.
I was wondering if I was imagining that this seemed easier with my non-dominant hand.
However, when I deadlift a barbell … whenever I begin losing my grip … it’s always that of my left hand.
Well, I finally solved the riddle: two explanations.
Here is the first: For some reason, every time I open a very tight jar lid, it’s with my left hand, while my right (dominant) hand holds the jar.
I unscrew jar lids often enough with my left hand (including doing this for my mother — she buys jars of various things that can be quite tight) to have elicited a training effect.
My left hand, over time, has become stronger in certain gripping venues than my dominant hand.
Unscrewing tight jar lids certainly doesn’t toughen up the hands for deadlifting, but using my left hand for opening jars has made it stronger than my right as far as the spring-tension gadget.
I also find that with really tough jar lids … I fight these out with my left hand first— and if I don’t succeed, I try it with the right — and if I still don’t succeed, I go back to the left (which succeeds at this point).
So thus, the non-dominant hand has, over time, gotten much more of a gripping workout.
Now why have I always used my non-dominant hand to unscrew stubborn jar lids?
I’m assuming it’s because my right hand — being the dominant one — is better at holding the jar steady and leveraging it as I apply force to it. Sometimes my right hand really has to be like a vice on the jar.
In short, both hands must work hard at unscrewing a very tight jar lid — Newton’s Third Law: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
So if you’ve been worried that your dominant hand isn’t as strong in certain things as is your non-dominant hand … take some inventory of your daily, weekly or occasional habits as far as the use of your hands.
You just might discover that you’ve been using the “weaker” grip in tasks where it actually excels — producing a training effect.
The Second Explanation
Do you usually use your non-dominant hand to carry around weight plates at the gym to load equipment or return them to their racks?
Some people do this to make up for a stronger dominant arm, and in the process, their non-dominant hand gains a stronger grip.
If this resonates with you, then you can help even things up more by using your dominant hand for some of the plate carrying.
Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified by the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained clients of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health.
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Can an Ultrasound Miss Gallbladder Cancer?
There are reasons why you cannot count on an ultrasound for detecting gallbladder cancer; yet, it can also “miss” it.
Symptoms of Gallbladder Cancer
- Abdominal pain, especially in the upper right area of the abdomen
- Abdominal bloating
- Fever
- Unintentional or unexplained loss of weight
- Nausea
- Yellowing of the skin and of the whites of the eyes (jaundice)
The Ultrasound
“The usual diagnostic study for gallstone-related disease is ultrasonography (US),” says Akram Alashari, MD, a trauma surgeon at Geisinger Medical Center in PA, and author of “THE POWER OF PEAK STATE.”
Many patients who have gallbladder cancer that is discovered by accident are found retrospectively to have had suspicious ultrasound findings (e.g., a solitary or displaced stone, or an intraluminal or invasive mass) that were not recognized preoperatively.
“Findings that are suggestive but not diagnostic of gallbladder cancer include mural thickening or calcification, a mass protruding into the lumen, a fixed mass in the gallbladder, loss of the interface between the gallbladder and liver, or direct liver infiltration,” explains Dr. Alashari.
Accuracy of the Ultrasound
“The overall accuracy of US for staging the local and distant extent of a suspected gallbladder cancer is limited,” says Dr. Alashari.
“In one report of 26 patients, accuracy was only 38 percent, and the sensitivity for detection of liver infiltration or nodal metastases was only 50 percent each.”
Risk Factors for Gallbladder Cancer
Gallbladder cancer, though rare, has several risk factors that can increase susceptibility.
Chronic inflammation of the gallbladder raises the risk. So do gallstones, though it’s a small risk.
Additionally, those with a history of gallbladder polyps or certain genetic conditions, such as Lynch syndrome, are at higher risk.
Gender and age also play roles, with women and older adults being more affected.
Obesity and metabolic syndrome further contribute, as they often lead to gallstone formation and gallbladder inflammation.
Lastly, a diet high in fat and low in fiber might exacerbate the risk.
Who Gets Gallbladder Cancer?
This disease is very uncommon. It’s so uncommon that the National Cancer Institute Surveillance and Epidemiology End Results Program includes it with liver cancer statistics.
• About 37 percent of newly diagnosed cases each year in the U.S. are in people 55 to 64.
• In people 45 to 54 it’s 12.1 percent.
• In those 35 to 44 it’s 1.8 percent.
• For those 20 to 34 it’s 0.7 percent.
• For people under age 20 it’s 0.8 percent.
The symptoms of gallbladder cancer can also have benign causes.
Dr. Alashari was formerly with Grand Strand Regional Medical Center in SC as an abdominal and critical care surgeon.
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
Can an Ultrasound Miss Gallstone Disease?
There’ve been a number of studies about the effectiveness of ultrasound for detecting gallstones, says Akram Alashari, MD, a trauma surgeon at Geisinger Medical Center in PA.
Dr. Alashari says that it’s key to recognize that “precise estimates of sensitivity and specificity are difficult to determine” because surgical confirmation of a negative sonogram is unlikely.
He cites a systematic review that showed that the sensitivity was 84 percent and specificity was 99 percent.
Rarely, advanced scarring and contraction of the gallbladder around gallstones will lead to a non-visualization of the gallbladder lumen, says Dr. Alashari, which has a specificity of 96 percent.
But this should also raise the possibility of cancer of the gallbladder.
The accuracy of a transabdominal ultrasound in detecting gallbladder disease, and whether or not it’s “missed,” is dependent on the ultrasonographer.
However, an experienced operator doesn’t mean a slam-dunk reading, because even with an experienced technician, Dr. Alashari says it’s a challenge “to determine the number or size of stones in the gallbladder,” particularly for very small stones: one to two mm in diameter.
Ultrasound of a gallstone. © Nevit Dilmen, CC BY-SA 3.0/ creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/Wikimedia Commons
A bunch of these tiny stones together may appear as one large stone during an ultrasound.
Gallstones are more likely to form in people who are female, over 40, overweight or pregnant. Rapid weight loss, diabetes and a family history also raise the odds.
Diets high in refined carbs and fat contribute, as do certain conditions like liver disease.
Some medications, including estrogen therapy, increase the risk.
Dr. Alashari was formerly with Grand Strand Regional Medical Center in SC as an abdominal and critical care surgeon. He is the author of “THE POWER OF PEAK STATE.”
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
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Normal Nosebleed vs. Leukemia: Is There a Difference?
Here’s what a doctor says about the difference between a leukemia nosebleed and a benign one.
If you have a nosebleed out of the blue, no apparent cause, just like that…should you fear this means leukemia?
Or what if you’ve been getting spontaneous nosebleeds lately?
What about the type of bleeding?
Would a leukemia nosebleed necessarily run hard? Or could it just trickle?
Would it necessarily bleed from both nostrils every time?
I brought these questions to Marc I. Leavey, MD, a primary care physician with 40+ years of experience.
Another question I had was if leukemia would make nosebleeds more likely if the person picked his nose or blew it hard, even lightly bumped it.
Dr. Leavey explains, “Rather than respond point by point, let me just expound a bit from what I’ve learned in consultation with learned oncologists in my environment about this matter:
“So you wake up with a nosebleed one morning, don’t feel sick and wonder what could be going on.
“You consult Dr. Google, or if your health plan dictates, Dr. Bing, and OH MY GAWD, I’VE GOT LEUKEMIA. I’M GONNA DIE!!! Hold up fella, not so fast. Let’s look at the whole picture.”
Know Thy Nose
Dr. Leavey explains, “The inside of the nasal cavity is lined with a very thin layer of skin that does not have the protection and resilience that the skin on your face or hand have.
“The slightest trauma to the nose can cause disruption of that mucosal layer. Just under the surface are countless little blood vessels.
“It is those blood vessels that make the lining of your nose look redder than other parts of your body.
“You are seeing those vessels through the very thin mucosa.
“So if you have a forceful sneeze, or pick your nose or otherwise insult your proboscis, those surface vessels may be disrupted and you will bleed from the nose. That’s a nosebleed if you’re not paying attention.”
Even just rubbing a towel on the middle portion of your schnoz as you dry your face after washing it could traumatize minute blood vessels and cause a little blood to trickle out; it’s happened to me.
“The potential severity of the nosebleed depends on the degree of disruption and how well your blood clots,” says Dr. Leavey.
“If it’s not too large of a leak, you will quickly clot it off and may not see any blood from the nose at all.
“On the other hand, a severe tear in a vessel may bleed enough to require medical intervention.
“And it is that ability to clot that is where leukemia enters the picture.
“With many types of leukemia, the normal clotting pathway of the blood is interrupted, for one reason or another.
“So a lesion which might cause only a trickle, if that, in a normal person could cause visible epistaxis (bleeding from the nose), that’s a nosebleed, in an afflicted individual.
“The bleed itself could be from one nostril or two, a trickle or a squirt, hard or easy to control, depending on the circumstances peculiar to that person with that nose at that time.
“The situation is not that dissimilar to those on blood thinners, like warfarin or some of the newer agents, who will have significant bleeding from a seemingly insignificant trauma.
“The takeaway point is that nosebleeds are neither pathognomonic of leukemia, nor does it exclude the diagnosis.
“It would be but one symptom to discuss with your physician if you are having them, and allow the physician to complete an evaluation.
“There are many far more common reasons for nosebleeds than leukemia, from picking your nose to picking a fight.
“In this, as in most other areas of scary symptoms, don’t jump to the worse case first.”
And by the way, significant straining during a heavy deadlift or back squat could trigger a nosebleed due to soaring blood pressure.
Dr. Leavey was formerly with Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore, MD, where his focus was primary care and internal medicine. He has a blog, STRING OF MEDICAL PEARLS.
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
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Hair Smell Like Medicine? It’s Your Shampoo!
Your shampoo and conditioner may be the reason your hair smells like medicine.
Having great smelling hair is almost as important as having great looking hair.
In fact, for some people, maybe having great smelling hair is more important than how it looks!
So imagine one day finding that your hair smells like something from the medicine cabinet.
I had been trying to find the right shampoo and conditioner for my color-treated hair, and decided to try KEN PAVES “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL” conditioner, since it does not contain sulphates or parabens. It was pricey, too.
But I figured that the famous adage, “You get what you pay for,” applied here.
At home when I opened up the tube, I was floored by the scent: medicine. How else can I describe this?
Imagine some tube of ointment your doctor prescribes for a rash. What would that ointment smell like?
Well, that’s how this shampoo smelled. Except it was probably stronger than what a rash ointment would smell like.
Something that smells like that should not go on your hair.
The KEN PAVES product not only had a medicinal smell, but again, it was strong.
I had to wash my hair that evening and wasn’t in the mood for going back out to return the tube to the store.
I also hoped that maybe this odor would transform into something more pleasant once the product got into my hair and was rinsed out.
Dang … I was wrong. My hair ended up smelling like medicine.
I don’t know which ingredient could possibly be responsible for this, but I absolutely warn you to avoid KEN PAVES hair products — at least if they have an unpleasant fragrance. Unless, of course, you want your hair to stink like medicine.
Even two days out and after brushing my hair, the problem persisted, though it wasn’t as strong.
I will never use this KEN PAVES product again and intend on contacting the company to complain about this.
It also doesn’t help that this conditioner did nothing to make my hair look like this product was worth the price or odor.
I’m sure the KEN PAVES shampoo (which thankfully I didn’t buy because I already had shampoo) is just as bad. I give the conditioner zero stars out of five. Good riddance.
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
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Sudden Blurred Vision: Brain Aneurysm or What Else?
Sudden blurred vision that doesn’t go away can be caused by a brain aneurysm or a few other serious problems.
“Visual impairment may be a result of a retinal detachment, which can present with a curtain or veil-like effect covering one area of vision,” says Cindy P. Wang, O.D., F.A.A.O., with South Pasadena Optometric Group. in CA.
“This is usually in one eye and needs to be evaluated immediately by a retinal specialist.”
Brain Aneurysm As Cause of Blurred Vision
“Symptoms of blurry vision may also be caused by a brain aneurysm, which are rare, but very serious,” says Dr. Wang.
Brain aneurysm bulge. Shutterstock/Romanova Natali
“This usually occurs in only one eye. An aneurysm is a ballooning in a section of the wall of a blood vessel.
“This can cause leakage into the eye, or compression of nearby structures, which can result in poor blood circulation.
“If you experience sudden double vision or headaches in combination with blurry vision, you should be seen by a neurologist.” And don’t waste a minute on this, either.
“Some patients find it helpful to keep a diary of their symptoms. This will help the optometrist to determine if you are indeed experiencing ocular migraines [which are benign] and not something more serious.
“Knowing whether you have any vascular diseases, or if anyone in your family has suffered from strokes or migraines, could contribute to your doctor’s diagnosis.”
Dr. Wang points out that ocular migraines usually occur in people under 40.
If you’re 40-plus, she says it’s important that your optometrist work with your primary care physician — or a neurologist — to rule out more serious conditions.
In addition to a brain aneurysm and detached retina, another serious cause of blurry vision is diabetes.
Dr. Wang says, “Diabetic patients with prolonged uncontrolled blood sugar levels may develop proliferative diabetic retinopathy where blood vessels in the eye begin to weaken and leak fluid.
“This can cause swelling in the eye that leads to blurry vision, and should be evaluated by an eye care provider.”
Dr. Wang has an extensive background in refractive surgery co-management and in the treatment of eye diseases such as glaucoma, diabetic retinopathy and hypertensive retinopathy.
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
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3 Benign Causes of Temporary Blurry Vision
If you’ve developed blurred vision that differs from mere worsening eyesight, there are three benign causes, but these explanations don’t rule out more serious or life-threatening causes.
“A temporary visual disturbance or episode could be a symptom of many things,” begins Cindy P. Wang, O.D., F.A.A.O., with South Pasadena Optometric Group. in CA. “The most common and benign is dry eyes.
“Dry eyes are often caused by air quality, reduced blinking, poor tear film, medications or prolonged computer use.
“Using artificial tears, taking frequent breaks and adjusting the height of computers to be below eye level can alleviate the symptoms.”
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Dr. Wang continues, “Another common cause of blurred vision is eyestrain, which can be caused by prolonged near work with infrequent breaks.
“Symptoms of eyestrain include blurred vision, headaches, dry eyes and neck and shoulder pain.
“Symptoms should decrease after resting your eyes. Try looking 20 feet away for 20 seconds every 20 minutes.”
Third up for a benign cause is an ocular migraine, “a temporary visual disturbance such as an enlarging blind spot, flickering lights or zigzag lines,” says Dr. Wang.
“Ocular migraines can occur in one or both eyes and usually last for 15-20 minutes. They may or may not be followed by a headache.
“Ocular migraines are benign and do not require treatment, although it can mimic symptoms of more serious health conditions,” namely a transient ischemic attack, which is a medical emergency.
You shouldn’t try to self-diagnose between blurred vison from a benign ocular migraine and blurred vision from a TIA.
Better safe than sorry; see a doctor even if you think the cause is probably benign and especially if mitigation efforts don’t work.
Dr. Wang explains, “Ocular migraines usually occur in those under 40.
“If you are over 40, then it is important that your optometrist work with your primary care physician or neurologist to rule out conditions that are more serious.”
More serious conditions that can cause temporary blurry vision include:
• Acute angle-closure glaucoma
• Brain aneurysm
• Brain bleed
• Brain tumor
• Carotid artery dissection
• Central retinal artery blockage
• Central retinal vein blockage
• Concussion
• Hypertensive emergency
• Intracranial hypertension
• Ischemic stroke
• Multiple sclerosis
• Optic neuritis
• Retinal detachment
• Transient ischemic attack (mini stroke)
Dr. Wang has an extensive background in refractive surgery co-management and in the treatment of eye diseases such as glaucoma, diabetic retinopathy and hypertensive retinopathy.
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
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Sudden Temporary Blurry Vision: When to See Doctor
See a doctor ASAP if you have sudden but temporary blurred vision, as this can be a harbinger of an awful outcome.
There are many causes of blurry vision, but let’s get more specific:
Your vision suddenly — not gradually — becomes blurred, and this lasts only minutes, maybe even 30 seconds, and then everything is back to normal, as though nothing had happened.
This may deceive you into thinking nothing serious happened.
But most likely, something very sinister just did.
Sudden onset blurry vision that doesn’t last long can be caused by a transient blood clot in the brain.
A blood clot in the brain can cause sudden blurry vision. Shutterstock/solar22
Here is what Cindy P. Wang, O.D., F.A.A.O., with South Pasadena Optometric Group in CA.says about this:
“If the visual disturbances are similar to a slow dimming of vision or blacking out of vision, and it lasts for five to 10 minutes, then it is likely caused by a mini-stroke, also known as a transient ischemic attack (TIA).”
Though the visual problem, caused by a TIA, is sometimes described as dimming or fading out, it’s also possible for a TIA to specifically cause sudden blurred vision that’s only temporary (a TIA, by definition, is temporary).
It may last less than five minutes, too.
In fact, strokefoundation.com states that “sudden blurred or decreased vision in one or both eyes” is one possible symptom of a TIA.
Medical Emergency
If you experience a sudden onset of blurred vision, even in one eye, this is a medical emergency, “caused by, but not limited to, atherosclerosis, carotid artery stenosis, heart disease, hypertension and diabetes,” says Dr. Wang.
“In this case, you should see your primary care physician or neurologist as soon as possible, especially if accompanied by other symptoms such as headaches, scalp tenderness or fever, which may indicate an inflammatory cause of vision loss.”
Ideally, you should have someone drive you to the emergency room.
Immediate medical attention is extremely important, as TIAs are harbingers of future strokes.
Even if you ultimately are not diagnosed with a TIA, it’s always better to be safe than sorry.
About 30% of people who experience a TIA — regardless of the type of symptoms it caused — are at risk of having a stroke within the following 30 days.
These grim odds can be dramatically lessened if there is immediate intervention and hence, management of the disease process that led to the transient ischemic attack in the first place.
Below is the “FAST” guide for identifying a TIA or a stroke.
Never blow off a sudden experience of blurred vision, no matter how brief.
If you’ve had a transient ischemic attack, it means there’s likely a partially blocked artery leading to your brain or a clot source in the heart.
Dr. Wang has an extensive background in refractive surgery co-management and in the treatment of eye diseases such as glaucoma, diabetic retinopathy and hypertensive retinopathy.
Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.
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Sources: str.okefoundation.com.au/what-is-a-stroke/types-of-stroke/transient-ischaemic-attack-tia/ umm.edu/health/medical/altmed/condition/transient-ischemic-attacks mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/stroke/symptoms-causes/dxc-20117265
Type of Teen Girl a Predator Won’t Try to Lure into a Car
Here are the traits of the kind of teen girl a predator would never try to lure into his car.
I am so sick of reading about teenaged girls who accept rides from strangers that I decided to write this article, featuring as my expert source, Carole Lieberman, MD, a forensic psychiatrist and author of Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live With Them and When to Leave Them.
This article specifically refers to girls who are not hitch hiking, but who, on the spot, are talked into accepting a ride from a stranger as they’re walking about in the community (I’ll save hitch hiking for another article).
We can be up all night debating what compelled, for instance, Amanda Berry to get into Ariel Castro’s car even though her perfectly working legs could have gotten her to her destination which was only a short distance away.
Let’s look at the flipside: What kind of teenaged girl would a predator never want to entice into his car?
What traits or features would this teen girl have to possess that would make the sex offender/killer cruise right past her as he drives around the neighborhood looking for a victim?
“Although a predator is not usually a genius, he is instinctually able to hone in on which girls would make the best victims,” begins Dr. Lieberman.
“As he follows behind them, scoping them out, he looks for signs that tell him who to choose as his prey and when to pounce.
“Even if he knows nothing more about them than their body language, how they’re dressed, how they look, what they’re carrying or doing, as they walk down the street, he can tell who would surrender to him more easily.
“The predator looks for signs of low self-esteem, loneliness and sadness. He asks himself, ‘Which girl feels neglected, disappointed by life, vulnerable to someone paying them attention, easily suggestible or too worn down to put up a fight?’”
It would be very intriguing if the following data could be unearthed:
The percentage of teen girls, who accepted a ride from a stranger (excluding hitch hikers), who were high achieving:
A-students, good athletes or heavy involvement in at least one sport, and involved in at least one other extracurricular activity, such as volunteer work, the school’s newspaper or the school drama club.
What percentage of these girls had NO idea what they wanted to do with their life after high school graduation? What percentage knew precisely what they wanted, having the plans all laid out?
Dr. Lieberman continues, “His best prey would be girls who walk slowly, dawdling, as if they’re not expected to be somewhere by anyone who cares. Girls who walk briskly with a sense of purpose would not make good prey.
“Girls who are dressed sloppily, or are poorly groomed, show that they don’t think much of themselves, are worn down and would be vulnerable to someone taking control.
“If she’s well-dressed (though not necessarily expensively), and well-coiffed, it tells a predator that she thinks too much of herself to be taken in by a stranger. If she’s dressed like a slut, it’s as though she’s wearing a neon sign that says,
‘Man wanted: please tell me I’m beautiful.’
“If a girl is carrying something heavy like a bag of groceries, it is easy for a predator to either offer to carry it or to snatch it away and make the girl follow him to get it.
“If she’s carrying a cell phone, it discourages a predator because he recognizes that it would be easy for her to call for help.”
A tough, strong minded teen may still be walking slowly and dressed sloppily—but be patient—I’ll get to that.
Dr. Lieberman explains, “Ariel Castro was skilled in choosing his prey. It was reported that, during his interrogation, he recalled each of the abductions in great detail and claimed that they were unplanned crimes of opportunity.
“In other words, he saw a girl who seemed like she was ripe for the picking.”
Amanda Berry was 16 and walking home from her Burger King job, and allegedly, she smiled at Castro in his van.
What was it about her that made him feel smug about lying to her that he was the father of one of her coworkers, and would she like a ride home?
“Although his specific lures were different, he sensed all three of these girls were vulnerable, as reflected by their apparent low self-esteem, loneliness and sadness,” says Dr. Lieberman, referring to Castro’s three victims.
“They were too disappointed by life to be more careful, especially when he chose the lure he believed would best appeal to each of them.”
Now back to the independent-minded, feisty teen who’s dawdling on her way home from school and wearing a T shirt and sweat pants. She could be an athlete with a sore hamstring.
She could be composing music inside her head or envisioning her performance for opening night of the school play.
The predator may see her as vulnerable and get as far as pulling his car alongside the curb and initiating conversation, such as, “Hello, where ya headed? I can give you a lift there on such a hot day.”
How would this girl respond that would make the predator speed away?
Obviously, if she whips out a whistle and blows it, or hollers “Fire! Fire!” he’ll burn rubber fleeing.
But aside from a very dramatic reaction, there are tamer responses and body language that would make him realize he picked the wrong victim.
Dr. Lieberman explains, “Once a perpetrator gets as far as offering a girl a ride, there are still traits that can make him back off.
“For example, if this mousey looking girl suddenly responds to him with a roar, such as, ‘Get away you [fill in the blank]!’ it would make him realize that he underestimated her.
“He would also be thrown off by her calling him out for what his is, a [fill in the blank].
“Similarly, if she scowls, straightens up, looks him in the eye, throws something at him or runs, he quickly realizes it’s too dangerous to keep pursuing her.”
If she calmly responds, “I don’t need a ride; my legs are pretty strong. In fact, my entire body is tough as nails,” and then stares at him hard, he will take off.
Of course, she must speak with conviction and pretend she’s the cat and he’s the mouse.
He will pick up on this instantly and, suddenly feeling frightened, will speed away, feeling like the mouse he truly is.
