Over the years I’ve read about the grievances of very tall women, and one of the biggest gripes is that they can’t find dates.
I’ve found this information on a tall women site, where countless posts by tall women are made every week, most of them quite negative.
A recurring complaint is the inability to get dates, let alone a steady boyfriend. This comes from teens and adults.
Many tall women will blame their height for the inability to attract a good man.
There is some truth to this, because it’s common knowledge that many men simply will not get involved or be attracted to a woman who’s several inches taller—whether that man is 5-7 or six feet.
However, tall women who are struggling to get dates must also realize that many men are completely turned off by a woman who exudes self-depreciation, who slouches and feels shame and embarrassment over how she looks, who projects zero self-confidence.
These are major, major turnoffs to men. But again, it’s a fact that a lot of men will not “look at” a woman who’s over a certain height.
So how is it that being very tall can help you find Mr. Right?
Well, imagine what “normal height” women must do to find Mr. Right. Because they aren’t tall, the wrong man will approach them—a man who normally would never even look at them if they were, say, at least 5-10.
And that shorter gal likes this man who approaches her. But it takes her three months to realize what an insensitive jerk he is. She just wasted three months.
Think of all the shorter women who waste an entire year before realizing how wrong her boyfriend is for her.
But had she been six feet tall, she would have found out right away at the start—because this jerk of a guy would have never approached her in the first place—because he’s the kind of guy who feels threatened or intimidated by a very tall woman!
In short (no pun intended), an average height or petite woman will often have to go through many frogs, many jerks, before she finally meets Mr. Right.
How many boyfriends must she go through? How much time will be sunk in this?
Whereas that 6-2 woman, who can’t get a single date…she is spared all the hassle and wasted time that her 5-4 best friend suffers through.
Yes, the statuesque woman can’t get dates, has no boyfriends…but she needs to see this as a lot of time saved, of being spared having one clown of a boyfriend after another…rather than as a curse.
“My short friends always have boyfriends!”
you might say. But ask yourself if you’d truly like to trade places with shorter women who are constantly complaining about their newest boyfriend, of what a clod he is, how much he makes her cry or how much he infuriates her.
Yet here you are, free as a bird, unencumbered, not tied down to a jerky guy, all because these insensitive clods won’t give you the time of day because you’re so tall!
Am I making sense?
Then one day, after years of a drought (meaning, no boyfriends), you just happen to cross paths with a super guy who just doesn’t care that you’re four inches taller.
Or maybe he actually finds very tall women exceptionally attractive and hence, has always dated women over six feet.
The point is, he notices you. You notice him. He doesn’t care that you haven’t had a boyfriend in eight years.
That sure beats the eight years of multiple, wrenching breakups and gallons of tears that your 5-4 best friend has suffered through!
You are unscathed, unmarked by all that trauma and turmoil. Yes, it’s been lonely, but I can’t say it enough:
You are untainted, not bitter and disgruntled by a string of failed romances over the past eight years.
And finally you’ve met Mr. Right. Consider your surplus height to be an excellent screening tool for all the frogs out there.
If you were “normal height,” think of how many frogs you might have to go through before meeting your prince.
Do not feel cursed by being very tall. Feel blessed. It’s a built-in filtering tool for men you would ultimately break up with.
How grand it is to avoid a relationship that was destined to maim your spirit, all because that man was turned off by your height!
