It’s not “there’s someone for everyone.” It’s “there’s MANY for everyone.”
If there’s only one person for any given person, then how’s it possible that in a world of billions of people, soulmates usually just happen to live within driving distance of each other before their first encounter?
This is WAY too coincidental. It’s also incredibly coincidental that many married couples are high school sweethearts.
What are the odds that the one person on this planet, that’s the “right one” for an individual, ends up going to the same high school — in countless cases of married couples?
The reality is that there’s probably hundreds to thousands of soulmates for any given individual. Or at least…for most individuals.
My cousin moved to Germany in her early 20s, where she met her future husband.
If he’s the only man on earth for her, what were the odds that she’d choose his country to move to?
People who have a mystical way of thinking would call this fate.
Some might call it divine intervention.
I call it luck. Had my cousin stayed in her hometown, or, for that matter, moved to Ireland, France or Hawaii, she still would’ve met a soulmate; she wasn’t exactly a hermit.
My sister’s been happily married for 30+ years. She met her husband in the apartment building they were both living in during college.
If he’s her only soulmate, how did they end up in the same apartment complex, attending the same college?
This wasn’t some magical fate. Rather, there could be 3,000 men out there who could’ve ended up her husband. Maybe 10,000!
She’s very social and attractive. These traits are key ingredients in maximizing how noticed a person gets in any given situation where there are other people.
I don’t believe for a second that she would’ve never married a different man had she gone to a different college.
My niece is happily married. Her husband first noticed her on the lacrosse field at their college.
What are the odds that two soulmates, for whom there’s nobody else, both attended the same university, let alone both played a sport that utilized the same field?
The explanation is simple: There isn’t someone for everyone. There’s many for everyone.
Look at all the people who were happily married until death stole one of them.
Several years later, the survivor marries — and that marriage proves to be a match made in heaven as much as the first marriage. Often, that second spouse was living within driving distance, too!
These cases are hardcore proof that there are at least two soulmates for the survivor.
But if there’s many for everyone, how come some people never find true love, or to put it another way, their perfect soulmate?
- Some people never marry.
- Others marry and divorce multiple times.
- Others stay for 50 years in a crummy or even abusive marriage.
Staying for decades in a crappy marriage can be explained away by several reasons including religion, prestige and money.
There’s also several reasons that can explain why so many people never find that “one true love” and never marry or keep marrying different people and then get divorced over and over.
Psychological trauma in childhood could result in a propensity to gravitate towards toxic people.
Never marrying could be tied to mental illness, substance abuse, chronic depression or, in my case — autism.
I am SO different that I’m inclined to believe I have only 10 or 12 perfect soulmates out there.
They’re scattered all over the globe. I will never cross paths with any no matter how long I live.
How could I ever expect to run into any by chance when they’re scattered all over the world?
My sister has always been so “normal” that every single major city would’ve contained dozens of her ideal soulmates — thus skyrocketing her chances of meeting “the one” before she even graduated from college.
The fact that so many married couples met through happenstance powerfully supports the idea that there are many for everyone.
That some people have never met their soulmate simply means that the earth — what with its 15.77 billion acres of habitable land — is just too large a space to guarantee that every person will — even “normal” people — by fluke chance run into one of their many soulmates, or even meet them through deliberate attempts such as dating sites.
Thus, the vast expanse of this planet could serve as yet another explanation for why so many marriages end in divorce and why some people never tie the knot.
Imagine how difficult it’d be to find “the one” if on a land mass of 57,308,738 square miles, we all had only one soulmate.
Quite frankly, it’s madness when someone says, “There’s only one person for everyone.”
Think of all the crazy ways that some happily married couples have met. It’s simply impossible that these chance encounters involved only one person for the other.
Unbelievable Ways Married Couples Met (these are true!)
#1 — The couple ran for cover in the same spot from a drive-by shooting.
#2 — Side-by-side at the blood donor clinic
#3 — His dog got her dog pregnant.
#4 — Introduction by an ex-wife
#5 — Patients at a mental health clinic
#6 — Man in a truck let a car go ahead of him on the freeway; passenger in that car thought he was hot.
While on the highway they kept within visual distance. Then he held his cellphone number to the window when they were side-by-side.
#7 — Hiking the same trail
#8 — He was waiting for one of eight elevators. One opened. She exited. He watched her walk away and followed, introducing himself.
#9 — She needed computer help; the computer specialist gave it over the phone. They met in person several weeks later.
#10 — She accidentally bumped his parked car with her bag.
Sources:
thoughtcatalog.com/january-nelson/2019/10/33-unromantic-how-couples-first-met-stories-that-weirdly-worked-out/
womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a19995023/how-happy-couples-met/
