Women Who Met Husbands by LUCK Judge Never Married Women

By Lorra Garrick | Last updated 02/26

Funny how the women who think something’s wrong with never-married women found their husbands through crazy chance without even trying! “The one” is often discovered through serendipity.

Serendipity means luck, fate, chance, destiny – for the good.

Many women met “the one,” whom they eventually married, through serendipitous means – and I’ve personally known many unions that sprung from chance encounters.

But I was inspired to cover this topic after a woman on YouTube commented that there’s something “wrong” with a woman who has never been in a serious relationship by age 40.

I’m very curious how this YouTuber met her current boyfriend, with whom she’s had a child. I’m betting it was serendipity: a chance encounter at a gym.

Maybe the 40-year-old whom she judged as having something “wrong” hasn’t been to the gym enough?

My sister met her husband when both were renting in the same apartment building during college: Can you say luck?

Recently an old daffy woman wanted to look at my fingers to see if there was a wedding ring (there never was; never been married, age 63 – I’ll get to why in a moment).

She then made a comment to the effect of, “Well when you decide to get married…”

I snarked back with, “Yeah, when I decide to click my fingers and get a husband.”

My oldest sister met her first husband at the hospital she worked at; he was the administrator.

Though they eventually divorced, the point is that she wasn’t looking for a husband that day on the job; they just effing happened to work in the same damn building.

She met her current husband through a dating site. Okay, so that wasn’t really serendipitous; both had been hunting.

But I’ve read so many cases, as well as met in person, of couples who met by freak chance.

A common scenario is that one walks into a business for a product or service, and the person who eventually becomes their spouse just happens to be the employee who helps them.

Many marriages came about through chance meetings at the workplace.

I once saw a docudrama about a homicide, and a woman who was connected to the victim fell for the main detective in the case; they ended up marrying. How’s that for luck?

Couples meet through social events, at weddings, even in line at the bank. It’s crazy.

Yet some have the blasted nerve to suggest that if someone isn’t married by age 40, or, if they’ve never been married and are 63, such as myself, that something must be wrong with them.

Well gee, maybe I’ve always been at the bank at the wrong time? Or perhaps “the one” for me had already left a social event just minutes before I arrived there?

Oh, wait a minute – my potential soulmates over the decades have always hit the gym in the mornings, while I’ve gone much later on, so that’s why we never crossed paths!

My oldest brother met his wife on a blind date set up by someone they both knew. I consider this LUCK, even though this scenario was planned rather than occurred by pure chance.

What are the odds that my brother and his wife just happened to know the same person – and, what are the odds that this mutual buddy of theirs one day foresaw that they’d make a great couple — and, what are the odds that this individual then decided to act upon this hunch? L-U-C-K.

So you met your spouse at skydiving school? At the restaurant where you were a server and he was a patron? Maybe he was your personal trainer or plumber?

I read one in the Reader’s Digest where a woman’s future husband was the mechanic working under her car, and when he slid out, she “melted.”

There’s nothing wrong with people just because they’ve never married. If we’re going to question the mental health or mind of someone, how about those who’ve divorced four times and are on their fifth spouse?

How dare anyone suggest something’s wrong, considering that seemingly the vast majority of couples met by crazy chance – when they were least expecting it – when they weren’t even thinking, “Hey, I’m gonna be scoping for a guy today!”

Dang, my niece was spotted on the lacrosse field in college by her future husband, another student; he was captivated and told the coach he wanted to meet her.

The stars must’ve been aligned perfectly for them that day – and four kids later, they’re still happily married.

63, Never Married, Never Even Engaged

As for myself, 63, never even had a serious relationship – certainly there has to be a reason, you’d think, especially since I haven’t exactly been living in a cave all my adult life.

I’ll tell you why: AUTISM. I have the type of autism that makes me incompatible with neurotypical men, as far as romance.

Yes, there are ASD/NT unions, but again, the way my autism affects the way I think, makes me “too weird” for any NT man.

I never began suspecting I’m autistic until I was 58 (got my clinical diagnosis at 59).

So all those decades prior to 58, I’d been seeking out “the one” in the neurotypical population.

I had given up at around 45, figuring that I was – just too weird to find a man, or if a soulmate actually did exist, there’d have to be something “wrong” with him, or he’d have to be schizophrenic or have something mental going on. Yes, I really believed this.

I now know it’s because I’m neurodivergent. Had I known this decades ago, I would’ve put myself in environments where autistic men would likely be, such as attending dances given by agencies that service developmentally disabled adults.

Autism Spectrum Disorder is deemed a developmental disability by the American Psychiatric Association, and it presents in all flavors, shapes, colors and sounds – it’s a spectrum.

While there are Autistics who’ll never be able to hold a job and will always need supervision, there are others who are aerospace engineers, school teachers, psychotherapists and even have sales jobs – married and raising kids.

I could’ve found “the one” somewhere in there, had I only known way back then…

It’s quite possible that, had I known of my autism at 25, I could’ve been happily married for the past 30 years!