If you’d die before ever wearing a bikini to the beach due to your size, does this mean you have LESS confidence than a body positive influencer who’s posted 200 images of herself in two-piece swimwear?
Heaven help the body positive influencer who tells my mother that my mother lacks confidence because she wouldn’t be caught dead in public wearing a two-piece swimsuit.
My mother will win an argument with you every time (a sign of confidence), yet wears only one-piece swimsuits.
Go ahead, tell her you have more confidence than she does because you choose to wear a bikini. She’ll think you’re nuts.
The craze of plus size women posting bikini images to Instagram or shimmying in revealing swimwear on YouTube will hopefully go out with the bathwater – very soon. Like the Pet Rock or Mood Ring fads, this can’t be permanent.
Let’s suppose I’ve put on 40 pounds from stress eating and refuse to wear a two-piece swimsuit to the beach. Instead I wear a one-piece WITH a cover-up.
I’d bet that the size 26 Instagram star and her legion of spellbound followers would think I lacked confidence – based only on my cover-up attire.
This is utter madness.
You, the Instagram star, and you, the woman who keeps posting, “I wish I had your confidence,” on that star’s account, have NO idea how I’d respond in a crisis situation or any grinding circumstance for which a thick backbone is required to manage that situation.
Likewise, I have no idea how the plus-size bopo star would handle an unexpected curve ball in life.
However, it’d be foolish to assume she has overall confidence just because she flaunts a bikini.
Equating Self-Confidence with Wearing a Bikini
Many confident women would never wear a bikini, and — it’s fair to wonder how many 270-pound body-positive IG stars who wear skimpy clothes actually lack confidence when it comes to dealing with complex or stressful life circumstances.
The “You should wear a bikini” message translates to:
“If you cover yourself up on the beach, you must be a self-hater.”
This is highly offensive to confident large women who prefer cover-ups.
The real role model should be the size 24 woman jogging on the track in modest workout attire, rather than the one flaunting her barely covered body like a sex object.
“I wish I had your confidence!”
The body positive promoter who makes money off of Instagram may have originally had a message, but she may NOW be thinking only in dollar signs with every new post.
It’s now a source of income, and she must continually post new images to keep the money rolling in. She may not even believe some of her own words, but if they snag in more fans ($$), what the hey!
Same with YouTube videos. More videos mean more ad clicks — whatever it takes to create fan retention and reel in new followers.
Second, some heavy body-positive influencers really DO think they have high self-confidence simply because they’re now wearing bikinis.
Even if the day before, they were so low in self-esteem that they fled to the bathroom in tears after a coworker criticized their work, they still think they’re brimming with high confidence simply because they own 21 bikinis and keep posting the shots to Instagram.
It’s also fair to speculate that some clever overweight women have jumped on this fad bandwagon in an attempt to make money – and actually feel ill-at-ease wearing a two-piece swimsuit in public.
For all we know, their shots are taken at remote sections of the beach.
For those who truly feel liberated while in a bikini …this fix is over when the outfit comes off.
But the ability to run a mile nonstop or press a lot of weight over your head would be a source of pride and confidence that a size 24 woman can have no matter what she’s wearing.
The money-makers are good at writing “inspirational” messages or shaking their barely covered booty on YouTube, and hence, gain a strong following. A pretty face helps a lot, too.
A smart woman of size may focus on a specific hook or two (whether she believes in it or not) to rope in highly vulnerable, impressionable Internet users.
With persistence and some research on how to score on Instagram or YouTube, this entrepreneur will become a “presence” in the body positivity world. She will be hailed as a role model.
Let’s cut through the noise and see this for what it really is:Promoting the concept that women can be sex toys at any size!
Of course, plus size women in bikinis will always have male admirers.
The issue is the tens of thousands of females who see these Instagram stars as bastions of confidence, courage and bravery – all for bearing a lot of skin in public!
A hefty woman who covers herself up at the beach – for all you know – may be doing volunteer work with tough street teens or have lead anti-bullying crusades at local high schools. Maybe she competes in judo competitions and is a partner with a law firm.
Yet…the implication by the bopo movement is that such a woman lacks confidence or doesn’t love herself – simply because of a trite fashion choice. Heaven help us.
A bikini is a prop and says zero about true self-confidence.