Tall women usually have problems finding tall womens clothing. Cool clothes for tall women may be a rare find, but the bigger problem faced by many a tall woman is the inability to embrace their height, such as “Camilla,” as posted on a site for tall women that I came upon.
Apparently she was a teenager at the time of her post, but many tall women share her misery.
Camilla is 5-10, but keeps trying to convince herself she is not a tall woman and is only 5-9. She’s a sloucher and hates standing on a bus because her head almost touches the ceiling and makes her feel “insecure.”
I’m 5-8 and when I ride the light rail to the symphony, wearing 3-inch heels, I’m craning my neck and standing like a soldier in an attempt to touch the ceiling. Camilla says people don’t notice her pretty face, but her height catches their eye.
But 5-10 is only two inches taller than me, and I am by no means a very tall woman.
Camilla has tried to put on weight to appear less tall, and hates being referred to as lanky. She says that a “slight comment” about her height will ruin her day.
It’s okay to want to change a body part.
Again, it’s one thing when a woman wishes that something about her body were different. For example, I wish my skin were naturally as dark as it got when I was a child in the sun all day long.
But lack of a natural tan does not ruin my day nor cause me anxiety or unhappiness. I wish I were a very tall woman, but I’m certainly not miserable with my current height. I wish my legs didn’t grow hair so I’d never have to shave again either.
It’s okay for a woman to wish things were different about her body.
But poor Camilla sounds like she’s suffering to high heaven. I wish I could have just five minutes with this teenager.
When a teen girl slogs through every day in a heap of depression and unhappiness over being tall, this clearly indicates that something is lacking in the home.
One need not have a PhD in psychology to figure this out.
Either there’s something awry in the home structure (lack of praise; lack of dream-building; lack of affection; lack of positive attention, marital instability with the parents), and/or teens like Camilla were never taught to deal with life’s little hardballs.
Dumb comments are directed towards women of all sizes, even “normal” sizes.
Whether you are a big and tall woman, short woman, fat woman or look like Pam Anderson, you must learn to go through life fielding dumb comments and stupid questions from people.
I’ve had my share of stupid questions and annoying comments from people; obviously not about my height, but about other things.
A person who’s prone to making annoying comments to tall women will make annoying comments to medium women (about other things than height, of course).
But if the comments and questions you get are always about being tall, then at least you can prepare for some witty responses.
In my case, dumb questions or comments are usually unpredictable, so I have to be especially prepared with a witty comeback. Many would argue that I shouldn’t say anything; just ignore the dope.
But let’s admit it; it feels so good to deliver a witty response to a stupid or rude comment!
But when a tall woman gets a comment about her height, it’s a compliment most of the time. Tall teens may get ridiculed and called names like Green Giant, but tall women usually get nice compliments (though there is the occasional rude question).
Tall women must convince themselves that the following comments are meant to be complimentary:
“Gee, you’re tall.”
“Wow, you’re so tall!”
“Geez, I thought I was tall!”
“How tall are you?”
“You’re as tall as my boyfriend.”
“How tall are your parents?”
“Were you always the tallest in your class?”
If being tall is such a terrible thing, why is height prized in the modeling industry?
And if you think your face isn’t pretty enough to be a model, then take a good look at runway models. Many aren’t all that pretty. But models aside, if you’re very tall, consider yourself blessed. OWN IT!