If the biggest goal in life is to wear a bikini to the beach or for Instagram despite being plus size — you need to rethink your priorities.

It’s just flabbergasting how many women in today’s age of social media think that the hallmark of self-confidence is “getting up the nerve” to wear a bikini to the beach.

The irony is that women of ALL sizes have been wearing bikinis to the beach long before the advent of social media.

Plus Size Women Need Not Be Sex Objects to Gain Self-Worth

Posing seductively in a bikini, showing nearly every inch of skin, is a setback for the promotion of women as being more than just sex objects.

It’s just SO wrong to equate a self-confident woman with one who merely puts on a bikini.

You may feel “brave” after walking on a beach wearing a bikini, but…

If doing that makes you feel brave and accomplished, then you have to ask yourself just HOW LOW your standards of bravery and courage are, such that you equate these concepts with putting on a few pieces of fabric.

This fad, propelled insanely by the advent of Instagram, has got to stop.

The fad can be summed up in seven words:

“You TOO can be a sex object!”

There was once a time — I’m afraid too long ago — that chubby little girls would announce, “When I grow up, I’m gonna be a pediatrician [or astronaut, scientist, nurse, teacher, judge, police officer]!”

Today they’re thinking, “When I grow up I’m gonna wear a bikini on Instagram!”

What’s more important than wearing a bikini?

Get that college or business degree you’ve always wanted. Get your G.E.D. if you’re a high school dropout. Finish that novel. Finally learn to speak that second language or learn the guitar.

Stop obsessing over the really tiny things in life like working up “the courage” to wear a bikini so that strangers — whose opinions should not matter to you — can see your body on Instagram or Facebook.

If you’re struggling to finally work up the courage to wear a bikini, here’s the solutions:

  • Ditch this project.
  • Go take your dog for a walk.
  • Sign up for yoga or self-defense classes.
  • Call your mother.
  • Sing to your child.
  • Do volunteer work.
Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified by the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained clients of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health. 



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