If the biggest goal in your life is to wear a bikini to the beach without worrying what strangers will think — then you need to take a much closer look at your priorities.

It’s just flabbergasting how many women in today’s age of social media think that the hallmark of self-confidence is “getting up the nerve” to wear a bikini to the beach.

The irony is that women of ALL sizes have been wearing bikinis to the beach long before the advent of social media.

Plus Size Women Don’t Have to Be Sex Objects to Gain Self-Worth

Posing seductively in a bikini, showing nearly every inch of skin, is a setback for the promotion of women as being more than just sex objects.

If you want to feel REAL confidence and TRUE achievement, train your body to lift a 75 pound barbell over your head or to jog a mile nonstop on that beach.

Or help raise money so that all the kids in a needy part of town can have their own bicycle.

It’s just SO wrong to equate a self-confident woman with one who merely puts on a bikini.

You may feel “brave” after walking on a beach wearing a bikini for the first time since age nine, but…

If doing that makes you feel brave and accomplished, then you have to ask yourself just HOW LOW your standards of bravery and courage are, such that you equate these concepts with putting on a few pieces of fabric.

This fad, propelled insanely by the advent of Instagram and YouTube, has got to stop.

The fad can be summed up in seven words:

“You TOO can be a sex object!”

Chubby little girls today are announcing, “When I grow up, I’m gonna wear a bikini.”

There was once a time — I’m afraid too long ago — that chubby little girls would announce, “When I grow up, I’m gonna be a pediatrician!”

Well…they still do, but let’s face it: There’s a lot of overweight young girls today who think it’s heroic for large women to strut around in bikinis. This just isn’t right.

As for the women who have fallen prey to this fad:

Get that college or nursing degree you’ve always wanted. Get your G.E.D. if you’re a high school dropout.

Stop obsessing over the really tiny things in life like working up “the courage” to wear a bikini so that strangers — whose opinions should not matter to you — can see your body in that doggone bikini.

I’ve yet to hear of a case in which a plus size woman was kicked off the beach by security personnel for wearing a bikini.

I hate to say this, but…if you think everyone on the beach is talking and thinking about you in that bikini … you need to take your sense of self-importance down a few notches.

Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified by the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained clients of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health. 



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