Very tall teen girls often struggle with acceptance of their height, especially since they fear more growth ahead. However, the root of a tall teen girl’s body hatred is firmly nestled in the palm of her hands!

Keep reading if you’re a very tall teen girl who wallows daily in misery over your surplus height…

There’s a site for tall women and teen girls and it has a “tall quotes” page. Below is an entry by Erin (October 24th, 2008). Here it is, copied (typos):

I am 16 and 5’10 1/2″. I hate it. There is not one day that goes but where I am not thinking about my height.

It’s so frustrating when my best friend who is 5’1″ is always telling me about cute heels she got for a party or new jeans she got. I have a hard enough time buying jeans that are long enough for me.

A good guy friend of mine recently asked me to go to homecoming and I thought it was a joke becuase I never thought anyone would want to go with me because of my height.

Everyone always tells me how they would love to be tall but really I wish I was shorter. There’s nothing i can do about it but be comfortable with it but it is just so hard when you’re taller then all the cute guys in your school. And, yes, I am on the basketball team =]

Oh my goodness, WHERE are Erin’s priorities? I’m 5-8 and all throughout high school I wished I were six feet.

Recently at 24-Hour Fitness, a local high school basketball team came in to work out, and there were three handsome teen boys standing around, and I’m thinking of how Erin would be shorter than all of them.

Erin seems to have a preference for boys 5-6 to 5-9; when I was in high school, I wasn’t interested in any boy under 5-10, and that had nothing to do with my height, either.

So I was watching these tall teen boys (about 5-11 to 6-1), and was thinking how wonderful it’d be if I could walk right up to them and see eye to eye! Even as a teen!

Why would Erin envy her 5-1 friend, who’d be literally engulfed by these boys if she were standing among them? Neck strain, anyone?

Not to mention not being taken seriously? Treated in a condescending fashion because you’re so small at 5-1? Yes, it happens.

Check out Abbi’s post or March 19, 2008 (typos):

Hi! My name is Abbi and I am 6’1 1/2″, and I’m only 15. I noticed a lot of comments on height and dating.

Up until this year I always told my mom I wanted my first boyfriend (and all others after that) to be taller than me. Well, that wasn’t exactly realistic.

This year I met a guy who is around 5’6″ and we became really good friends. My spanish teacher’s room is right by our lockers, and one day during class she said “You know that boy that you always talk to? I think he loves you, the way he looks at you, he must be in love with you.”

I always thought that was because I was a lot taller than he was, and he always had to look up at me. Well I was wrong, because about a month and a half after that, he asked me out.

I said yes, of course, because secretly I had liked him for a long time, but I thought it would be really awkward so I never told him. We’re still going out, and he loves the fact that I am so tall! ^.^

I always try to be myself, and I really don’t care what anyone else thinks, if I am having fun, and not hurting anyone whats wrong with that?

Although people do look at me funny sometimes, I try to not let it bother me, because they don’t matter, and the people that do matter love you anyway.

I also wanted to say I love wearing heels! All my friends, excluding my boyfriend scorn me for wearing heels, because “I am already too tall.” I don’t believe that, and I think it is silly to say that to tall girls.

I feel empowered when I wear heels, and it boosts my self-confidence too. I also want to say I love being tall, and have always embraced that part of my physical appearance, even when I was little. It it just another thing that makes me ME!

The difference between Abbi and Erin has to do with whomever is raising them — and maybe, just a tiny maybe, a little bit of innate brain wiring tossed in.

But it doesn’t end there. Abbi and Erin have also reached an age where they should take some responsibility for the way they think — including how they feel about their extra tall height.

At Erin’s age, we can’t blame 100 percent of her self-body shaming on her parents NOR on innate brain wiring. A teen is old enough to step up to the plate and start swinging rather than balking in the dugout.

If a teen girl gets bullied and she just happens to be very tall, she’ll probably blame it on the height — especially if the “bullies” are pointing out how tall she is.

But there’s a huge difference between being bullied ABOUT something and being bullied BECAUSE of something.

If you’re a bully magnet, you’ll be bullied about whatever the bullies think is your hot button.

A tall teen girl who hates her height essentially creates this problem. It is never forced down her throat. A tall teen girl gets her height from her parents (even if neither are tall, but that’s how the mixing up of genes sometimes works), but this doesn’t mean she can’t OWN IT.

Sounds like whomever is raising Abbi has pumped her with self-esteem, and whomever is raising Erin has failed at this. My 13-year-old niece is 5-9 and loves it!

To tall teen girls who are more like Erin than Abbi: Do not ask for sympathy; you do not have a disease or disability. Re-evaluate your home life to discover what’s missing. Your issues go much deeper than simply how tall you are.

Lorra Garrick has been covering medical, fitness and cybersecurity topics for many years, having written thousands of articles for print magazines and websites, including as a ghostwriter. She’s also a former ACE-certified personal trainer.