So we have another obese “self-love expert” Instagram influencer who insists “You will NEVER be able to determine a person’s health by looking at them.”

Though this has merit in that a person on the street who looks healthy might actually have cancer or kidney disease, we should not deduce from this observation that an obese person can be healthy and fit.

Self-love is very important. But it should not blind an obese individual from the facts.

The self-love “expert” in question here has been using proclamations of self-love for several years, blinding her from the facts concerning the dangers of being at least a hundred pounds overweight.

She has posted her weight as 265, and a few other times as “around 240.” Either way, she’s at the low end of morbid obesity.

At the time of this posting, the self-love influencer has 207K followers. She’s good at reeling ‘em in.

She also makes money doing this, pitching for numerous companies including one that makes children’s clothing and a fertility monitor.

For all we know, she makes claims that she knows are not rooted in facts, yet at the same time, she knows WILL build her following, which makes it easier for her to get paid collaborations.

However, based on all the IG posts of hers that I’ve read, plus her FB postings, this very overweight influencer very likely truly believes everything she says.

She claims she gets unsolicited advice regarding her obesity. She calls these “fatphobic health concern trolls.”

She then posts, “I don’t have a problem that needs to be fixed. I have a solution that works for me and it’s called self-love. And loving yourself, and teaching your children to love themselves is NEVER wrong.”

Do you see what I see? A complete change of subject.

What does teaching your kids to love themselves have to do with the hardcore facts of chronic obesity’s harmful effects on the body?

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: It’s quite intriguing that the vast majority of these oversized self-love influencers are under age 35.

Youth is an amazing protector against heart disease, type 2 diabetes and impaired mobility.

But just wait till she reaches her mother’s age. I’ve seen pictures of her mother – who’s also obese. And she does NOT look fit at all.

Which brings me back to an earlier topic: Determining a person’s health by looking at them.

I wonder if this 265 or 240 pound influencer mom of two would bellow that same mantra in regards to the two women shown below.



I can’t tell what this self-love preacher’s fasting blood sugar is; nor can I tell what her blood pressure and cholesterol levels are.

But doggone it, I can certainly tell by just looking at her that she’d struggle to run up a hill.

In fact, she’d struggle to run on flat land. She’d struggle to quickly get up from the floor.

She’d become uncomfortably winded within five minutes of walking 3.5 mph outdoors.

Her chief form of exercise is unscheduled “dance parties” in her kitchen or living room.

Though there are 130 pound women who’d struggle to trot up a hill (I’d bet most are smokers and don’t do ANY exercise), let’s face it:

Miss Self-Love Guru would find it a LOT easier to swiftly move if she were a hundred pounds lighter. This will become increasingly relevant as she ages.

What, you may be asking, does it matter if someone struggles to run up a hill, run along a beach or bounce up from the floor?

Well, it matters. Because these are markers of physical fitness.

Furthermore, nobody’s 33 or 27 forever. This morbidly obese influencer will one day be 40. And 50.

There’s another morbidly obese Instagram influencer who’s really into powerlifting and is very strong.

Certainly, this second woman will be in far better shape than the first one in the years to come.

The second one wants everyone to know that even an obese woman can command heavy barbells.

But the first one’s idea of sufficient exercise are those occasional “dance parties” and the most basic yoga moves. She can barely hold the downward dog position.

When I was a personal trainer, my senior aged clients did warmups that required more than what this young woman calls exercise.

If You Want to Do the Self-Love Thing…

True self-love is getting as healthy and as fit as you can be in a sustainable way.

Yes, it’s difficult to 100 percent stick to clean eating and portion control every day of the week, 52 weeks a year. We all slip up.

And sometimes, a gym rat just has to stay home and take an unplanned day off from the gym.

But to think that at 265 pounds, or “around 240,” you can STILL be healthy? Yes, maybe NOW your blood work and blood pressure are normal.

But what about in the future when you’re no longer a young adult, but are closing in on middle age?

Things can get bad pretty fast, and heading that list is MOBILITY problems and osteoarthritis of the knees.

It’s funny how this self-love mama has a major issue with the concept of judging a person’s health by their size, yet has NO problem whatsoever when her followers judge her confidence by a mere photo of her in a bikini.

How is it that we can’t and shouldn’t judge a 250 pound woman’s health and fitness by her size, but we CAN accurately judge her level of confidence simply by a picture of herself baring her skin on Instagram?

“Oooh you’re so confident!” says one follower.

“I wish I had your confidence!” says another.

Confidence at WHAT? Baring a lot of skin on Instagram? What a terribly low standard for self-confidence in a woman.

One need not have a medical degree to know that the next morbidly obese woman you see is in poor physical condition. It’s just SO unatural to have heaps of excess body fat.

And – due to the obesity – is at very high risk for cardiovascular disease, some cancers, infertility, a complicated pregnancy or delivery, blood clots, gout and so much more.

This information can be found in any doctor office pamphlet on the dangers of obesity, especially morbid (at least a hundred pounds over one’s medically acceptable weight).

Lorra Garrick is a former personal trainer certified through the American Council on Exercise. At Bally Total Fitness she trained women and men of all ages for fat loss, muscle building, fitness and improved health. 


Top image: Michael Coghlan/Adelaide, Australia